Fear Rejection? Put God First

“The Lord is my light and my salvation; I will fear no one. The Lord protects me from all danger; I will never be afraid.” (Psalm 27:1 TEV)

The fear of rejection is based on two things. First, we all need to be loved — that's a fact. We all desperately need massive doses of love in our life to be healthy individuals. God says, "I want to love you." God is love, and he knows you need to be loved.

But, second, we develop the false idea that our need to be loved is solely dependent upon one person or a group of people. When you expect someone else to meet 100 percent of your need for love, you're asking for trouble. You're setting yourself up for hurt and opening the door for the fear of rejection. When you look to any other person besides God to meet all your love needs, he or she can't. There is no human being alive that can love you as completely and as fully as you need to be loved, and there never will be. Only God can do that.

So the first step in overcoming the fear of rejection is to put God in first place because he's the only one who can ultimately meet all your needs. 

Does God ever love us through other people? Of course. Does God want us to love others? Yes. Does he want to use us as channels of love? Absolutely. 

But, you will never have all your needs met by any person or group of people. God never meant it to be that way. They just don't have enough love. Human love is limited; God's love is unlimited and unconditional. No matter how deep your need is, he can fill it.

Talk About It

In what ways have you compromised in order to be accepted? How would you do it differently?

How do you think understanding God’s love for you will help you be more assertive?

 

Rick Warren is the founding pastor of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, Calif., one of America's largest and most influential churches. Rick is author of the New York Times bestseller "The Purpose Driven Life." His book, "The Purpose Driven Church," was named one of the 100 Christian books that changed the 20th century. He is also the founder of Pastors.com, a global Internet community for pastors.

This devotional © 2012 by Rick Warren. All rights reserved. Used by permission.


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