How to connect with people
By Rick Warren
— February 22, 2010
"A sweet friendship refreshes the soul." Proverbs 27:9 (MSG)
One of the deepest needs we have in life is the need to be understood. We all desperately need to feel that somebody can feel what we're feeling and understand what we're thinking. We all need people who connect with us.
A study by the California Department of Health Mental found that if you're disconnected from other people -
- You're two-to-three times more likely to die an early death;
- You're four times more likely to suffer from emotional burnout;
- You're five times more likely to suffer clinical depression, and;
- You're ten times more likely to be hospitalized for an emotional or mental disorder.
We need human connections for physical, emotional, spiritual health. We need people who understand us, who relate to us and who can connect to us.
Learning how to connect with people on a heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul level is one of life's most important skills. Unfortunately, nobody ever teaches us how to do this. You learn science and geography, history and math in school, but nobody teaches you how to connect with people. You may be brilliant in some subject, but if you don't know how to connect with people, you're still not going to go very far in life.
Over the next six days, we'll look at the six principles of how to connect with people. It doesn't matter your age or stage of life. If you're a parent and you want to know how to better connect with your children, you can use these principles. If you're engaged or married and you want to know how to better relate to that other person, you can use these principles. If you're a teacher or an employer or employee, no matter who you are, if you need to get close to anybody in life, you need these principles.
Together, we'll see that human connections are good medicine and a "sweet friendship refreshes the soul."